The Perils of Dating a PhD Student (or: an Honest Academic’s Dating Profile… )

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6 Responses

  1. M. Hughes says:

    This is hilarious. So familiar! So true! I shall issue it as a warning to all my friends & family!

  2. Jo Byrne says:

    Perils of dating a PhD student? Try being married to one! George and I have been together for nine years and he has been a student for eight of them. I honestly feel that at the end of it I should be awarded an honorary PhD for going through it with him!

  3. Elena says:

    I had a recent breakup with a PhD student and I didn’t quite understand why. I thought I was maybe the problem…
    But after reading your post, I understand how stressful it can be. When I showed him this blog post, he told me it’s pretty much his life right now and it’s on point.
    All I want to do now is give him support, even if we are not a couple anymore…

  4. Tiana says:

    LOL! I second Jo Byrne’s comment

  5. Helga Lees says:

    Great analysis!. I have graduated recently and here comes the shock!, 50 years after leaving my old University (Vienna)!
    Relocated to this country after marrying a Brit who was the best thing that ever happened to me, absolutely wonderful husband and father and clever too. Having supported me throughout the PhD with wise counsel he did not live long enough to see me finish it. Had quite a bit of trouble with the examiners as I dealt with a contentious subject in history and politics of events that happened in 1945 in Central Europe. There was the unspoken suspicion of bias which in the end I was able to invalidate through being able to prove that my version was indeed correct.

    So, yes, getting involved in the work for a PhD does demand stamina but in the end if you have a theory and can prove it against the odds and contribute to
    knowledge, there is satisfaction too.

    Sadly, though I pursued my research with great interest, the PhD does little for me now and I do miss male company. So, if there is a suitable academic in your circle of friends tell him my story.

  6. Larry Onyango says:

    Very true. I am going through this. Thirty years after my undergraduate degree. Hope to soon be through!

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