Renegotiating the Gender Contract

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  1. writeway73 says:

    The social stigma in Korea is much stronger there than here, despite its similarities. We follow similar social constructs but not to the extreme measures.

  2. xphilharveyx says:

    I saw this post on the front page of wordpress and it caught my attention. I am the first to admit that I am not nearly as aware of issues like this in the world, but I appreciate people who take the time to think and write about them.

    I also wanted to let you know I posted a link to here on another blog – the author is a social worker who studied extensively in women and gender studies and is now moving into other areas. I told her I thought she would be interested in this site. It is not my blog, but I thought I would connect you because after reading posts on both, I feel like it might be worthwhile and enjoyable for people with similar interests to share their knowledge.

    Here’s her blog (the one I posted a link to here on):

  3. darklogos says:

    I enjoyed your article. The thing I would point out is that you come to a point where the male presence of the father is underplayed. It is unsaid but the “kin” relationships are an okay but not prime male role model replace. Without both sexes in the home the children have certain problems. What it means to be male for boys is primary seen to be displayed by the father figure.

    One thing multi-culturalism has tried to tell us that each culture has their way of doing it and that is ok. But this article is saying that it is only okay if we give our stamp of approval. I think this is where western liberlism finds itself in a hypocritical situation. A culture is operating like it always has but the west doesn’t approve so it has to change. It is also ignoring the fact that this taboo creates a situation where 1.6 of births are to unwed mothers. Compare that to here where 40 percent of births are to unwed mothers. Abortion is promoted by liberalism as an option for women who want a sexually active lifestyle but when its used how could that be wrong?
    There is a greater ideological conflict that is going on. On one hand you the thought that a woman can do anything with her body. The other is that the secular solutions for those repercussions are bad (ie abortion). The true issue really is that women shouldn’t have hardships in anyway they want to live. That is the ideology being pushed here.
    Where is the trade off benifit for shifting the roles of men and women. In this case there is no incentive for men to negotiate. The woman has just as much right to say no to sex and parenthood as the man does. Does a society benifit from having a lot of unwed mothers? Historically society suffers from sexual misconduct of both parties. Enabling the institution of unwed parenting only leads to an increased societal burden. Social programs are a societal burden even if they are good programs. Add in the fact that the opportunities for the child are less just based on economics alone. The only thing that should be placed is shared dishonor where the woman outs the man she had sex with as she keeps the child. Then she is not the only one outcast and the male may think about marriage if he is not currently married.

    Overall nice article and I enjoyed the read.

  4. N D Sharma says:

    This is a problem not confined to South Korea alone, though conscious efforts elsewhere are not probably that organised. Maybe, South Korea may give the lead.

  5. Josette says:

    I appreciate you bringing this to our attention. I live in South Korea, and it’s amazing how little you hear about the subject here. I did however see a short documentary the other day, which makes me hopeful that minds are ready to start opening here.

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